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BY TOM MITSOFF

Note to self: It is no longer all right to pack my toenail clipper kit in my carry-on airline luggage.

If you haven't been an airline passenger since Sept. 11, things are much, much different than you remember. And, thankfully, the passage of time since the attack on America has diminished neither the resolve nor the attention to detail of security personnel.

After waiting in line for an hour to pass through the security checkpoint at the Columbus, Ohio airport last week, I placed my carry-on bag on the x-ray conveyor and asked a security person what I should do with my cell phone.

"Put it on the conveyor, sir," he said with disdain in his voice. And then he raised his voice so as many people in the several-hundred-deep line as possible could hear him.

"Please be ready when you get to the checkpoint to put ALL of your items on the conveyor," he bellowed. "If you aren't ready, it just delays things for everyone."

It used to be that I would put my cell phone in a little basket, walk through the metal detector, and head to the gate. But that was then and this is now.

As I went to retrieve my carry-on bag from the x-ray inspection, a security guard approached.

"Is this your bag, sir?" he asked. I answered in the affirmative.

"Would you mind if I search it?" he asked in what I perceived was a courtesy question only. Whether I objected or not probably wasn't truly a consideration. I figured it must be a random and-or routine part of post-attack procedures.

The gentleman started to go through the things in my carry-on bag. He opened my travel toiletry case and started taking out my shaving cream, deodorant and ... my little travel toenail clipper kit.

And as he opened it, it hit me.

I was bringing sharp scissors and a metal toenail file into the passenger cabin. Six weeks ago they would have been categorized as personal hygiene items. Now they were potential weapons of terror.

At that split second, it crossed my mind that in this highly charged setting, this might be viewed as a serious offense. I just hoped that the security folks would see the combination of embarrassment and stark realization of what I had done.

Another man approached, looked at the sharp scissors and pointed metal file, and asked, "Are these your items, sir?"

"Uh-oh," I thought, but I confirmed that they were.

"You can't take these on board," he said, and confiscated all of the items.

As the day progressed, I was randomly searched on two other occasions, both times by friendly but thorough airline employees. While it was inconvenient and even a little embarrassing, I walked away from each search feeling good about the fact that the airlines and airports are now being so thorough. I was glad that security found the potential weapons in my carry-on bag. It showed me that whether by innocent mistake or conscious act, it is now much more difficult to get items that could cause personal harm to others into the passenger cabin.

Bottom line: Don't expect to whiz through security any more. And that's a good thing for passengers, pilots and flight attendants.

As a security person re-packed my carry-on bag following the search, I said to him, "It never even occurred to me (that there would be a problem with the toenail clippers)."

"Things are different now," he said.

Indeed.

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BY TOM MITSOFF

You're home with your children, watching television, when suddenly a news bulletin flashes on the screen. It includes information and perhaps images of violence, death and destruction. What do you say to your children? Do you try to explain the political factors? Or do you just sit quietly and let them come to their own conclusions?

"That would be a good time to ask your child, 'How do you feel?'" according to Kathleen A. Brehony, Ph.D., clinical psychologist and author of "After the Darkest Hour: How Suffering Begins the Journey to Wisdom." "But there are individual differences in children, and I would eschew a one-size-fits-all answer. It would be most important for parents consider the age of their child and what he or she can handle."

Parents already faced this situation in the aftermath of the Sept. 11 Attack on America. And with war declared on terrorists and President Bush's statements that the war could be lengthy, it is highly likely that we all could be faced again and again with this scenario.

Brehony said parents should listen to what their children are asking about what they have seen and heard. It's important to give children encouragement and the opportunity to express their feelings, she said.

Twelve-year-old Katie Dahl of Gwinnett County, Ga., expressed her feelings about the attack in an unexpected way. Before the attack occurred, she was already pondering an entry in a school poetry contest. The assignment was to write verse that completed the statement, "In my hands I hold ..."

"Her answer to that, because of current events, was freedom," said her mother, Rhondi Dahl. "She literally started writing it before school one morning and it was flowing out as fast as she could write because it was coming from the heart."

"I was surprised and shocked," said Katie, a seventh grader at Pinckneyville Middle School in Norcross/Atlanta, Ga. "I never expected something like this to happen to America. I wanted to somehow help out for the cause and thought a poem would be a good way to express my condolences.

"At first, I was writing the poem just to have an entry to turn in for the contest, but then I realized I was writing it for my sake and I felt so much better once I put my feelings down on paper," Katie added.

According to Brehony, it's no surprise that expressing her feelings that way helped Katie.

"Certainly it's good for people to have opportunities to express the way they're feeling, and it's particularly good to give children that opportunity," she said.

Parents should use their own judgment in deciding how to respond to each child's reactions to such events as they occur in the future.

"There's a really fine line between scaring them and saying that we're all right, there's nothing wrong," Brehony said. But she said parents should keep in mind that children are very perceptive about their parents' feelings, much more so than many parents believe.

"It's not the responsibility of the kids to assume the emotions of their parents," she said. "If you're a parent who is out camping, you don't want to be the one that the kids are trying to keep calm and protect when you hear something."

Likewise, in times of crisis, parents should try not to put their children in a position of having to comfort them, Brehony said.

But in the aftermath, give children the chance to ask questions, or otherwise express their emotions about the events they have just seen. If that expression is suppressed, Brehony said the result could be some of the same symptoms that are seen in children who have experienced other types of emotional trauma. Those symptoms include acting out in school, dropping grades, withdrawing socially and nightmares.

Parents, take the time to listen to your children if and when they are exposed to more terrifying images of war and violence. Be ready to respond in an age-appropriate manner to their questions. And it wouldn't hurt to have a notebook or a sketch pad at hand.

Like any traumatic situation, children (and adults) can handle war images better if given a chance to express the feelings they elicit. When your child starts talking about or asking questions about war, recognize that it is a time to stop your busy schedule and take a few quality minutes for interaction.

"I Hold In My Hand. . . Freedom!"

America was special
We had something great
And even only days ago
We faced a horrible fate

It was that September morning
That so many lost their lives
And on that bright clear morning
So many knelt and cried

Who ever would've thought
Who ever would've known
That the lives that were lost
Could've been their very own

When those three planes were crashed
In the unexpected attack
Inside the intended targets
So many were helplessly trapped

We took our freedom for granted
And we didn't understand
America could fall off course
And we could loose our stand

But yet we never fell
We still stand with pride
Because we had hope, courage, and confidence
All deep down inside

America was great
And even now, we still are
And from even only days ago
We have come so far

We have learned a lesson
The best you could ever learn
To love each other and stand strong
And glory you will earn

I guess what I am trying to say
Is that I am proud to be an American
And it is freedom that I so gladly
Hold in my hand

So God bless America
To this very day
Because he will stand beside us
And hold our lantern all the way

By: Katie Dahl
9/19/01